I wasn't a fan of Ellen Fitgerald AT ALL. My dad never spoke ill of her, but he had a pretty miserable childhood on account of her. And I didn't care much for me Grandpa Drake either. Come to think of it, we called my mom's dad, Cleo Mallison Hughes Grandpa and the other one Grandpa Drake. Hmmmm. I wonder if that's significant?
It seemed like he was always questioning us about why we weren't as smart, athletic, popular etc. as "The Cousins." He and Ellen Fitzgerald used to give expensive gifts, but it was always something that they thought you should have, not something that you actually wanted. In 1967 all I wanted was a baseball mitt. Instead I got a pink and white linen gingham dress that had about 4 yards of fabric in the skirt, with a big sash and pink heart buttons up the front of the bodice. Can you imagine how awful that would look on a skinny girl with stork legs, scabby knees, 30 pounds of hair AND cordovan colored high top corrective shoes? Please.
But as I learn more about the family, I'm thinking that maybe Don Dee Drake did the best he could with what he knew. I had a relative tell me that Allison Royce Drake liked to drink. Seems to be a trait that all us Drakes have. But Allison was a mean drunk. A mean drunk usually translates to "knocking your family around" or saying terrible things. That's just my experience.
The 1910 United States Census has the last of the Drake Family spread across three locations. Lucia had married Frank Converse and Hattie had married Dana Fuller. My Grandpa Drake is 13 years old and Royce is 6. They are living in a boarding house in Charlotte Ward 4, Eaton, Michigan. Their dad is living in Woodstock, Lenawee, Michigan in a boarding house, doing odd jobs. He's 51 and "single." Remember that.
Jane Myers Drake is living in Charlotte Ward 4, Eaton, Michigan. She is a roomer at another house. Maybe she was a housekeeper. She is "M1" which I believe means "Married Once." I wondered what the hell happened in this family? When I pulled up a map, I discovered that while they might not be living together, Jane Myers Drake lived right around the corner from her two boys. Allison was a substantial distance away.
Years later, after his wife Ruth Scovill Drake died, all three of his children -- Martha Jane, my dad Donald Duane Drake and brother Jack Scovill, were sent to live with Ruth's folks. And they were pretty old. They had a boarding house -- geez, what is it with this family and boarding houses? But it couldn't have been too bad as my dad learned to speak German and polish which would help him in his Army years, and he had some real funny stories about that time in his life.
But still -- I could never, NEVER farm my kids out. Who would do something like that to his children. Especially when you've got your other kid and step son living with you. And your newer younger wife isn't working. It just set wrong with me.
So this morning, I ran a google map to see where Grandpa Drake was living in 1940. 324 W. Forest, Ypsilanti, Michigan. Pretty nice house, right?
It's apartments now, and for all I know it could have been apartments back in 1940. And right around the corner, practically was where my dad and his siblings were living. It would have to be difficult to live that close to your dead wife's parents with your new young wife and kids, don't you think?
But here's the picture that kind of changed my mind about my Grandpa Drake:
On the back: Don Drake Age 10
Bill Drake Age 3
To be Duane's
Duane is the name that everybody in the family called my dad. Except my mom. She called him Don. All his friends and fellow coaches called him Dobbie. Which is also what they called my Grandpa Drake -- which another story for another post. And Bill was what everybody called Allison Royce Drake. When referring to him, we all say Uncle Bill. Bill was the nickname that Lucia's husband, Frank Converse gave him.
But here's the deal -- this is what I gather from this pix: Don is definitely not starving, but his weight could mean that he is eating a diet of starches. Or he could be a stress eater. It doesn't look like he's in a suit suit, but a jacket and pants. And really could the faces on these boys be any sadder?
So, while Grandpa Drake wasn't the best dad in town, he probably did the best he could do with what he knew.